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Post by christinam on May 8, 2006 18:20:03 GMT -5
girls, i need some advice how to deal. heres the situation, i try all the time to be the better person, give in and get treated like crap by her. She didnt talk to me for 4 years of my marriage, always buts in and now with our baby on the way is being toooo pushy, keeps emailing me i cant wait to hold my grandchild, and leaving message i am going to hold my grandchild, and saying she is so proud of her son, and like i am the mom so i should respect her to get a kick and i am just so tired of this, and when i finally answer her i have to deal with her crying to dh and he and i fighting as to why did you say that, so i cant win, please help me as i want to enjoy our child and no one step on my toes or my families. thanks girls, god bless. chrissy
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Post by aalissa on May 9, 2006 9:21:02 GMT -5
chrissy** I have gave soooo much advice to you and none of it has worked!!! PLAIN AND SIMP  You married into this problem and I don't think it will ever change  sorry girl but WHAT YOU SEE"... IS WHAT YOU GET"... moving is the ONLY WAY in my book! cause you can't ignore her she will come around or call...? One thing STOP ANSWERING and READING HER E-MAILS shit change your e-mail address if you have too.... I thin kyou can block her from e-mailing you! after awhile she will get the hint....! and when she ask why you don't talk to her ex... say " You have no right to talk to me the way you do! YOU ARE NOT my mother nor my BOSS in life! You can talk to your son that way all you want, BUT I AIN"T got to LISTEN to it! you don't have anything nice to say then DON"T SAY NOTHING AT ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! stop buying into her shit!! stop talking to here don't look at here don't even act liek you see her!! and I don't think your HUBBY will ever understand HOW YOU FEEL!! UNless he had the same thing happening to him! how would he like it if Your mother acted like that towards HIM.........................................? man o man girly! thats JUST A BUNCH of stress and nonsense   |
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Post by aalissa on May 9, 2006 9:29:30 GMT -5
You should tell your husband if she wants respect SHE NOW HAS TO EARN IT!! you would not take that from a friend or a co-worker would you?? how about JOE?? would you be treated like that from him?? if SO THEN YOU NEED TO GET A BACK BONE GIRLY!!!!
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Post by christinam on May 9, 2006 12:13:50 GMT -5
alyssa, thank you! you have been helping me alot, she is just always a problem, she is so insecure, and lacking love if she wasnt she wouldt fight for it in my relationship. I seriously ignore her then she calls dh and cries, then we fight, i just want to enjoy our baby and her stop this insanity! i have to just say what i got to say and if dh and her get mad oh well deal!
this is not right, my family treats dh like a son, she treats me like i am invisible but looks for trouble. she calls and satrts needs her way, and plays games, it is so pethetic, i tell dh no one lives like this with this insanity! sunday she is coming for mothers day, but i invite her to my classes graduation she says sorry cant go. if it is for her, she is there, everyone has to drop everything. for me she never tries. i really am trying and i am so afraid of being hurt constantly by her and dh, every time he and i are happy she is a bi------ch, you are right though i do need a backbone, enough is enough, we are together 14 years you think she grow up already!
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Post by christinam on May 9, 2006 12:14:24 GMT -5
this is a happy occasion, this baby is for us to make us a family, not her! she raised her kids and needs to but out now!
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Post by Diane on May 9, 2006 14:23:45 GMT -5
Chrissy - I wouldn't have any contact with her if DH isn't around, he needs to see her do stuff to understand. IF she calls, say DH isn't here I will have him call you when he gets back and say good bye. I do that to my MIL, she isn't as bad as yours but still a b****! and also, doesn't sound like you are the only one that needs to grow a backbone, soundsl ike DH needs to also since he should be telling his mom off. This is my wife, and you don't talk to her like that. because why would you lie, and why should you be the bad person. she knows what fires you up and then tattle tells like a 3 year old. |
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Post by christinam on May 9, 2006 14:31:24 GMT -5
thanks girls! she sends this email to me signing up for herself as the mom for free stuff, i asked her if she signed me up, she said why would i it was for me! then she puts i am going to love the baby and all! putting me and my family second. i have had it, my stomach hurts and i want to just enjoy my children!
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Post by aalissa on May 10, 2006 9:35:36 GMT -5
Chrissy diane is right also!!!! your HUSBAND needs to address this issue SHIT do it with th whole family!!!!!!!! you can't have this going on with the baby around they feel that stress and tention!!!
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Post by AwesomeMommy on May 11, 2006 7:00:26 GMT -5
Chrissy!!!! I have the same problem, my MIL is a total psycho. She is great for a few weeks, and then turns into a total drama queen where it is all about her - and that lasts for a few months!!!! She and I DO NOT get along at all, even after 10 years. All I can say is DO NOT take what she says to heart, the sooner you accept that is just the way she is, the better off you will be. Just let the hurtful things go in one ear and out the other. It is not worth the time and stress....... and yes, I agree with the other ladies, have your husband deal with her, after all she is HIS mom. (((HUGS)))
Jacque
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Post by aalissa on May 11, 2006 8:48:14 GMT -5
see thats the thing YOUR MIL gets a kick out of you getting all pist off and fired up!!! YOU NEED TO SHOW her it don't bother you...? |
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Post by Diane on May 11, 2006 16:12:52 GMT -5
Chrissy - DH needs to deal with this know before Kira comes home. Just sign up for the deals yourself. Enfamil, Similac, Good start just go to their websites Also Huggies Pampers, go to Babycenter and sign up for a free subscription to American Baby, then don't worry about what she will get. You will get more, and will get to actually use the stuff. She will be disappointed, you get a little free formula, 1 diaper here or there, but mostly coupons. And hey, I would tell her to use those coupons to buy your formula or diapers any time she wants. what a b****! |
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Post by christinam on May 11, 2006 18:48:08 GMT -5
so girls,
since this with kira, dh and i got so much more closer, our love proved we can be a team! i called dh crazy mother, and for the first time i spoke back felt good, he said he was proud of me and how strong i am being and i feel great!!!!!!!thanks for all the advice!!!!!!
now tonight i wait for him to celebrate everything is good and our daughter will be in our arms soon!!!!!!!dh alos said i am going to be a great mom cause under this stressful situaion i was strong, so he is finally coming around! thanks to our baby girl, and i feel so much better today!!!!!!
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Post by Diane on May 12, 2006 7:55:01 GMT -5
glad you stood up to her, wht was her response?  I think I would still try to keep a nice distance between you and her, maybe give the news but not right away so you and DH can enjoy first. And I don't thikn I would tell her the actual time you will get DD, it would be nice to come home just hte 3 of you! then tell her you will call when you are home, since you don't know how long the process will take. that way if you want an hour you can or want longer you can. Please don't let her interfer with your enjoyment, I am glad DH is figuring out this needs to stop. But I still think he needs to do some talking with his mom also! |
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Post by aalissa on May 12, 2006 10:07:07 GMT -5
I agree DIANE!Glad chrissy!! yes what did she say?
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Post by AwesomeMommy on May 12, 2006 11:26:50 GMT -5
WooHoo! I am glad you talked to your MIL. What exactly did you talk about.... and how did she respond?
Jacuqe
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You married into this problem and I don't think it will ever change 
sorry girl but WHAT YOU SEE"... IS WHAT YOU GET"... moving is the ONLY WAY in my book! cause you can't ignore her she will come around or call...? One thing STOP ANSWERING and READING HER E-MAILS 
