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Post by AwesomeMommy on Sept 29, 2005 17:34:14 GMT -5
Amanda: I am so sorry you are having such a horrible week! I hope you had an awesome nap and feel much better when you wake up! Whats going on, why is it such a bad week?
Jacque
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Post by amandav on Sept 29, 2005 23:36:06 GMT -5
Well I had a nap and am feeling a little better. Monday wasn't bad. Tuesday I was busy but my neighbor needed someone to watch her boys while she had her hair done (Long story but she broke her wrist and has pins and rods sticking out all over the place so she can't wash her hair herself). I agreed to watch the boys (ages 2 and 4). Everything is okay. Her 4 year old is a little high maintenance sometimes but nothing I haven't been able to handle with a few warnings and timeouts in the past. He was his usual self and had a timeout but still was acting up. Anyways we went round and round with timeouts and him refusing and yelling and he just kept escalating. I could explain the whole thing but it would just take too long. Anyway he worked himself into a lather (his mom's words). I would call it a rage. I have never seen anything like it. He was literally foaming at the mouth, profusely sweating, turning red, screeching, shaking, clenching his fists, and all the while spitting piss and vinegar from that little 4 year old mouth. He was COMPLETELY out of control. I have never seen anything like it in my life, I have never seen so much anger in my life. This was no ordinary temper tantrum. This was a psychotic episode as far as I am concerned-and I am being totally serious, no joking. It lasted well over an hour until his brother and my daughter were so upset, and I was shaking all over, I was crying because I literally almost threw this child down the stairs. I am still upset over it, I'm nearly crying now. Needless to say I had to make sure the other kids were safe while I went to get the phone. So I tried to sequester him in the hallway with the baby gate to keep him away from the other kids. I went to get the phone and this child rips down the baby gate by literally flying into it like a wild animal. I get his moms voice mail and I am crying into the phone that she has got to pick her kids up NOW cause Bailey is out of control. She calls me right back and gets there within about 10 minutes. By this time he has calmed down and is quietly playing Legos. So she and I start to talk about what happened, and I am in tears, explaining this to her. While we're talking he pushes my daughter so my neighbor takes him home and calls me on the phone. I finish telling her what happened and she tells me that he does that about 4 days a week and has since he was 2 years old! She is crying and telling me that she KNOWS that something is wrong with him but no one believes her that he's not having regular old temper tantrums. I told her to get him to the pediatrician right away and BEG for help. This is a kid who is supposed to start kindergarten next year. She told me the reason that she hasn't put him in preschool is that she knows he'll get kicked out. Anyway, I thought his behavior might be a parenting issue until I saw this episode. She needs help. She is my friend and I feel so sorry for her. Her DH isn't very supportive and thinks that she should be able to handle him-but this is not an ordinary kid. I talked to my mom about it (she's a special education teacher and has a Master's degree in child development) and she gave me some resources to give to my neighbor. This is 2 days later and I am still torn up about it. I cannot express in words how horrific a scene it was. That was Tuesday. Wednesday I worked and my 12 hour shift turned into a 15 hour shift and was just generally bad all around. Thursday- I am to take cupcakes and a "healthy alternative" to Abbie's preschool for her birthday. I baked cupcakes in ice cream cones on Tuesday night and figured I'd frost them this morning. Pulled the cupcakes out and the cones had gotten kind of soft-not so crunchy anymore, but I thought, 3 year olds won't care so I frosted and put sprinkles on them. I carefully put them in a box and put foil all around them so they wouldn't tip over. They were too cute. The first corner I turned this morning in the car-all of the cupcakes fell over and there was frosting everywhere. I nearly burst into tears. I had to go to the store for the "healthy alternative" snack and juice anyway, so I got premade cupcakes. For one gallon of applejuice, some sliced melon, and 24 cupcakes my total was $30! Holy cow. I was just devastated. After I dropped Abbie and the very expensive birthday snack off at preschool I had to take DH's car into some body shops for estimates cause a ladder fell on his car and creased the hood (at least THAT was someone else's fault). What a sh*tty week. There's still Friday, maybe this week will redeem itself. Abbie is going to stay the night at my parent's house and Alex and I are going out to dinner, hopefully that will help erase the rest of the week. Sorry for such a long post but I feel a little better now.
Love and sticky babydust! Amanda
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Post by AwesomeMommy on Oct 1, 2005 10:37:58 GMT -5
Hi Ladies.. I have so much to say, but I have run out of time. I will be back on line to finish catching up on posts... I still need to catch up on all of my buddy groups!! I just wanted to let you know that I have not forgotten about you!
Talk to you soon!
Jacque
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Post by AwesomeMommy on Oct 2, 2005 8:18:04 GMT -5
Amanda:
I wish I could give you a hug right now, no one - especially you - deserves to go through what you did. You are right, that little boy is in need of some serious help. No child at the age of four should have such an anger management problem. You did the right thing by calling your neighbor and having her remove him from the situation. When it gets that far it is not "giving up" it is bringing in mom to take care of something you as the care giver should have never dealt with. I am not one for putting children on meds... I do not even like giving Kailey Tylenol unless she really needs it. Mainly because this day and age it seems like Everyone gives medicine for every little thing... but if play therapy does not work for this little boy then he needs some medication for his safty and for the safty for those around him. I am so sorry you had such a horrible week, it seems like it has been one thing after another... and I would have also cried over the cupcakes... but I would have eaten them all. On the bright side, maybe all of these tears are escalated by the fact that there is a little baby in you right now causing hormonal havoc!!! Either that, or Aunt Flow is a total psycho this month. Either way, you handled all situations perfectly... and I would have done the same thing. I am so sorry I did not have time to read and respond to this sooner. It has been so busy here that I cannot catch myself coming or going. Well, we are at 10DPO now.... test day is right around the corner, I am buying test tongiht... hopefully I will not cave and test on Monday morning. I have been strong so far, heck it is 10DPO and I have not tested yet! WOOHOO!! The closer it gets to the test day, the more nervous I get. I hope and pray this it our month. I have built it up so much that it will be a hard fall if I do not get that BFP... but then again there is always next month. I am still feeling AWESOME about this month, and I have a positive outlook and I really think that when I test I will get a BFP.... but at the same time I am a little more emotional then I was a few days ago.... that could be a pregnancy sign... I sure the hell hope it is! Jacque
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Post by amandav on Oct 2, 2005 10:19:23 GMT -5
Hey Jacque-BE STRONG!! Do not test until your test day! I too am very excited this month, more so than in previous months, and I pray to not be disappointed. I keep thinking, in June I'll have a little baby. I'm already making plans, like "Well I guess we'll miss the Rossi's 4th of July BBQ next year cause the baby will only be a few weeks old" and stuff like that. I hope I am not building myself up. Hope? I know I am building myself up-what am I talking about? I don't know if I told you about my neighbor who had twins 7 weeks ago? Anyway she got to bring one home on Thursday, so I saw her yesterday-she weighs 4 lbs! She is soooo tiny-but just darling. Unfortunately her sister had a 9 hour surgery on Friday to create an esophagus (she was born with just a small pouch that didn't attach to the stomach). They are hoping that the surgery will be successful (they won't know for a few days) and she can come home to be with her sister in a few weeks.
Well I still have some possible pregnancy symptoms/possible pre AF symptoms, so I am trying to just be calm until Friday when I test. It should be a busy week so hopefully Friday will get here quick!
Jacque-Thank you soo much for your words of support. I am still upset about my neighbor's son. I saw him yesterday and helped him cross the street (his parents were in another neighbors garage across the way). He was very quiet when he saw me (not like him). I don't know if he knew that he messed up, or if his mom scolded him about his behavior or what.
So I am crossing my fingers for you, me, Diane, and Kristina that we all get BFPs this week!
Love and sticky babydust! Amanda
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Post by AwesomeMommy on Oct 3, 2005 13:29:36 GMT -5
Amanda: I think that it is so funny that we have both been preaching to each other about not testing early and then we both cave and test early!!! Sorry about the BFN... but it is EARLY, chances are you will not get that BFP until Friday... so be strong and try to hold out until then. I would like to think that I will wait and test on Wednesday... but I have no will power, I will probably test again in the morning!
I already have my maternity leave planned, so I know what you mean about planning in advance and building things up. But, if AF does show I know that we are here for one another... and we will just have to start obsessing about our next cycel... But it does not matter because you and I are gonna get our BFP's this month!!!
Twins!!! I want twins so bad! How premature were they? I am glad that all is going well with the little girls that is now at home, and I hope and pray that her sister's surgery went well... and her recovery goes even better! I hope she said something to her son about his behavior... do you know what type of discipline she uses at home?
Friday cannot get here quick enough, I cannot wait to hear all about your BFP!!! Just think, if this is our month our babies due dates will only be about a week apart!
Kristina: Girl, how you doing? I hope you are having a wonderful week! I am glad you decided to wait and test on Wednesday... if I can hold out I will... but I cannot make any promices... the HPT is a
Jacque
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Post by amandav on Oct 3, 2005 14:09:07 GMT -5
Jacque-The twins were born at just under 33 weeks. They told her she had to make it to 32 weeks for her babies to have a good chance, and they made it, barely. She was on strict bed rest since 24 weeks-awful. She also had several hospitalizations to stop premature labor, so I think it's lucky she even made it to 32. So as much as twins sound like fun-I would prefer one nice healthy full term baby. The thing is she didn't use fertility drugs-her babies are identical! As for my other neighbor, I don't know if she talked to her son or not, but there is definitely tension in the air when we talk. It makes me sad cause she's my only real friend in our neighborhood. I don't know if our friendship can be repaired or not.
I hope you get your BFP on TUESDAY (notice I didn't say wednesday cause I KNOW you can't wait that long, hee hee). I will be good and wait until Friday, no, really, I will!
Kristina-Are you going to test so we can all celebrate your BFP? Your symptoms sound so good!
Love and sticky babydust! Amanda
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Post by AwesomeMommy on Oct 4, 2005 12:53:52 GMT -5
I did test again this morning, Amanda you know me so well.... it was negative, but it is still early so I am not losing hope. I will wait and test on Thursday, because then AF will officially be one day late. And I will be 14 DPO, that is what I was with Kailey when I got my first BFP!!!
Amanda: My biggest fears about twins is delivering them early and bedrest. I could not imagine having to leave a baby in the hospital to finish developing after a premature birth. A friend of mine went through that with her son, he was almost 3 months early, only weighed a pound at birth. But now he is a perfectly healthy 7 year old, you would never guess that there was ever anything wrong with him. He comes over to play with Kailey and there are even times she has trouble keeping up with him! As for your neighbor, I would just talk to her about it. Let her know that you cherish your friendship and that you do not want what happened to come between you. If not, then you will have to be friends with your other neighbor, you know - that awful woman you told me about.... ;D
Jacque
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Post by kris3206 on Oct 4, 2005 13:20:29 GMT -5
Hi Girls,
Well everything is great today. No AF or spotting so I guess that is a great sign for a BFP !!!!
What is eveybody's symptoms today?
Good Luck Diane, Jacque, Amanda
LOTS OF BABYDUST LOTS OF BABYDUST
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Post by amandav on Oct 4, 2005 16:00:35 GMT -5
Hi all! My college roommate came over today and it was so good to see her. We probably haven't seen each other for about 3 years. The thing is we only live about 45 minutes from one another, so there isn't any reason to have gone that long. I guess life just has a way of getting in the way. Jacque-I'm glad you are going to wait until Thursday (I saw on another post that you pretty much have to). That way we can get our BFPs one day apart. What a great weekend we will have!
Kris-You are killing me! You are 2 days late and have great symptoms-TEST!!! I want you to get that BFP!
As for my symptoms-Boobs aren't so sore today-but feel firm. I had lots of cramping yesterday but not so much today. I am trying to stay positive-I have no spotting, so that's good. I am just trying to hang in there until test day on Friday.
Love and sticky babydust! Amanda
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Post by AwesomeMommy on Oct 5, 2005 7:03:40 GMT -5
I wqill do personals later... but I wanted to fill you in on what was going on first.....
I'm out, our at least I think I am. I had a huge temp drop today... HUGE. So, AF should show today... if she doesn't I would be really really really surprised. Maybe my temps will go back up tomarrow... but I doubt it. Last time I had a dip like this it was good old auntie calling to tell me she is on her way...... crap. I'm going to go check my cervical mucus, hold on a second. lol Ok... it is clear, but I do not spot before AF, she is either here or not... so that is the not always the best way to judge. So... either way, the end of my waiting game is almost here. If she does not show today AND my temp goes back up in the morning then I will test on Thursday...
I gotta get Kailey to school so I am just going to copy and paste this onto all of my buddy groups.....
love and babydust!
Jacque
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Post by AwesomeMommy on Oct 5, 2005 9:49:54 GMT -5
Kristina: Congrats again! What awesome news, it just made my day! Amanda: I am glad that you had such a good time with your old roommate. I have friends like that also.. we can go forever without seeing one another, and then when we do get together it is like we just saw each other yesterday! I had a meeting last night... almost stopped at WalMart on the way home to get a test, I am so proud of my self for not getting one. I still plan on testing tomarrow.... Do you spot before AF shows? Jacque
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Post by amandav on Oct 5, 2005 23:46:31 GMT -5
I am a freak! I literally just posted on the other board about how I'm not going to test until Friday-and I just tested. The thing is I think it may have been a weak positive. It took a few minutes to appear and is very faint. But I was also holding on to it and WILLING that line to show up. I have no idea how long I stared at it. The instructions (it is a generic drugstore brand, don't ask me why I buy them, I just do, even though I get them for free) say not to read it after 10 minutes cause sometimes a line will show up after 10 minutes. I don't think I stared at it that long-but you never know! So I will test with one from DH's work first thing in the morning. I am a POAS freak, what in God's name is wrong with me?! I will not tell DH about tonight's test because: 1. He wouldn't understand why I am such a freak 2. I don't want him to be disappointed if it was not a true positive So I need to wait for 8 hours to find out. Good thing I am exhausted from work so I will sleep good tonight!
Love and sticky babydust! Amanda
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Post by AwesomeMommy on Oct 6, 2005 8:24:04 GMT -5
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!! Your test was positive. Ok, I have to go re read your post, because I am so excited that everything you typed was a blur....
Jacque
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Post by AwesomeMommy on Oct 6, 2005 8:25:18 GMT -5
AMANDA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DID YOU TEST THIS MORNING? ? Jacque
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